Panic Day

Messies sometimes have the type of day that panics those of us on the road to recovery.  A day when our “stuff” threatens to overwhelm us. Paper and dishes and clothes threaten to morph into domestic “Transformers” and rage havoc in our lives.

Usually the last straw is fatigue, a cold, flu, something that clouds our minds and saps our strength. A time where we are physically or mentally challenged. Oh and of course we have let our routines slip and there are dishes to be washed, projects strewn about and some other stress to add to the mix.

This is a time to put into operation “Love Self”.  Take a few minutes to put your blinders on to everything but nurturing yourself if even just for 10 minutes.  Take your supplements, use some essential oil and make yourself a favorite beverage.  Take a mental vacation and go to your safe place and breath!

Once you feel less frazzled think gently on what tasks need to be done and prioritize them.  One option is to divide them into Public and Personal. Public meaning things to do with others like paying a bill, sending out an email or making a phone call. Personal are items you do that make your life easier such as doing laundry or washing dishes.  This will also give you a snapshot of how your routines are shaping up.

Do one item at a time giving it enough time to finish a segment. If it gets overwhelming go back to breathing and calming.  If you have something that has to be done quickly see if a family member or friend can help or take on another task that might make it easier.

Relaxing Music on Amazon

Don’t Panic! Panic Days are never fun and they will come but with preparation, knowledge and increasing your coping skills you will get through them. As with any health issue see a health care professional for help if things feel out of control.

 

Sometimes Organized isn’t enough

In an ideal world, the one we wave a magic duster at, our lives run smoothly. Everything is in its place and there’s a place for everything.  Why that isn’t so is the eternal question.

We should celebrate every small step we take, every area we clean, every item we find the right home for, but sometimes, not often, it isn’t enough.

When you study psychology you know that change takes place from one of two reasons. We change because we have to (external) or because we want to (internal).

Some of us also deal with people who have a different opinion of what clean and organized is.  I can acknowledge something is out of place but if it isn’t hurting anything I may not put it back until I need or want to.  Some people “have” to put things back. They either can’t stand it, have made it a high priority habit or just choose to do so.

OK let’s face it – Stuff Sheds. Yeah like dogs and cats stuff gives off dust or fluff or hides it. So having more stuff, even if organized, creates more cleaning challenges and  . . . AND if you have a high tolerance for “stuff” you can run into some major backlash from the “cleanies*”.  Does this matter? If you are living a fulfilled life (as much as one can) and getting things done and not breeding the next super germ is it that big of a deal?  Should it be? No, but can it be? Unfortunately and with a big sigh I have to say yes it can.

Not everyone understands recovering “messies*”.  Not everyone is going to see how far you came – only how far you have to go (in their minds).  Last of all, if you are in a situation where someone is trying to get some “dirt” (pun intended) on you it’s easy to take owning a lot of possessions and spin that into a dirty or unhealthy environment.  Is it fair, ethical or moral to do this? Heck no, but they still do.

Always be good to yourself. Stuff happens and unfair things happen. But if you have a moment of weakness, that fuzz just doesn’t call you to pick it up and dump it in the trash, just think that a “cleanie” on the way over and use a little external motivation to keep fighting the good fight.

*”Cleanie and Messie” are terms I read and adapted years ago from the books by Sandra Felton. Check them out! Sandra Felton Books on Amazon

To-Do Lists (again)

In all the years I’ve been alive I’ve been fascinated by to-do lists. Which makes me an expert – – – NOT! 🙂  I think I like the the thought of lists neatly written, organized and then checked off one by one, like some people dream of winning the lottery. You have to “enter” or buy a ticket to win the lottery and you have to actually “write” the to-do list to get anything done.

So we can create a to-do list via:

  • paper and pencil
  • mini sized on tablets/phone
  • Big sized on spreadsheets on you Desktop computer

I love tech options. Goodness knows there are a gazillion choices out there and they don’t fall off your desk or get coffee soaked. Their challenge is versatility.  If you have your to-do list on a phone app and find it is out of power and you can’t get to it, that is major frustration.

So for those of us who need to organize our to-do lists what are some suggestions:

Paper:  Have a safe spot to stash. Close enough to reach but out of the way of spills and chaos.

Consider using a flexible system so you can store a pen and stash some notes.

Examples:
Mead – Cambridge City Zipper Binder, Microfiber, 12 3/4″ x 11″, Assorted Colors
Canvas Home Basics Design Project Organizer
Pendaflex Pilesmart Project Sorter, 10 Sections, Letter Size, 1 Each (50995)

Or if worse comes to worse get a zipper pouch to put all the bits and pieces in:
Zipper Pouches on Amazon

On to on-line/electronic/app type to-do lists suggestions:

  • Get one that is cross platform – meaning you can use it on Ipads, Android and Windows etc.
  • Start with Free – yes there are some worth spending some money but until you are sure, try some free ones. Read the reviews to see what features people like and what drives them nuts.
  • Make sure you like the look and it does what you want. If you get frustrated using it you will not continue. If you have to spend too much time figuring it out you might not come back!

To-Do List Apps on Amazon

And last but not least for futher reading some book suggestions:
To-Do List Books on Amazon