In an ideal world, the one we wave a magic duster at, our lives run smoothly. Everything is in its place and there’s a place for everything. Why that isn’t so is the eternal question.
We should celebrate every small step we take, every area we clean, every item we find the right home for, but sometimes, not often, it isn’t enough.
When you study psychology you know that change takes place from one of two reasons. We change because we have to (external) or because we want to (internal).
Some of us also deal with people who have a different opinion of what clean and organized is. I can acknowledge something is out of place but if it isn’t hurting anything I may not put it back until I need or want to. Some people “have” to put things back. They either can’t stand it, have made it a high priority habit or just choose to do so.
OK let’s face it – Stuff Sheds. Yeah like dogs and cats stuff gives off dust or fluff or hides it. So having more stuff, even if organized, creates more cleaning challenges and . . . AND if you have a high tolerance for “stuff” you can run into some major backlash from the “cleanies*”. Does this matter? If you are living a fulfilled life (as much as one can) and getting things done and not breeding the next super germ is it that big of a deal? Should it be? No, but can it be? Unfortunately and with a big sigh I have to say yes it can.
Not everyone understands recovering “messies*”. Not everyone is going to see how far you came – only how far you have to go (in their minds). Last of all, if you are in a situation where someone is trying to get some “dirt” (pun intended) on you it’s easy to take owning a lot of possessions and spin that into a dirty or unhealthy environment. Is it fair, ethical or moral to do this? Heck no, but they still do.
Always be good to yourself. Stuff happens and unfair things happen. But if you have a moment of weakness, that fuzz just doesn’t call you to pick it up and dump it in the trash, just think that a “cleanie” on the way over and use a little external motivation to keep fighting the good fight.
*”Cleanie and Messie” are terms I read and adapted years ago from the books by Sandra Felton. Check them out! Sandra Felton Books on Amazon