as if there is no need for concern for their feelings and experiences (denial of subjectivity).
Just a while ago (as of this writing) here in San Antonio the local TedX community had a session on “Redefining Beauty”. I didn’t go because I’ve never had a big problem in being female. I was blessed to have a lot of “gender neutral” experiences growing up, but obviously that is not the case for everyone.
So what does this have to do with organization or being a messie? Well, humm, there is something there lurking in my brain. I guess that women need to realize that despite the “equality” push of the last few decades we can’t expect gender neutrality in all areas – in fact bias and negative practices against women are growing.
What are some things that I’ve been pondering?
Pepper Spray – make sure it’s legal in your area to carry
Self Defense courses – why not take a few?
Know your surroundings, have an escape plan and don’t put yourself in a vulnerable position
To heck with fashion or self expression – dress comfortable but conservative – don’t be “eye” candy – it’s not worth it these days when some cultures teach that “eye candy” is free for the taking!
This year I have challenged myself to write at least 300 words in a blog post every weekday. Now I am not a natural writer. I love to talk and have done podcasts but for blogs, you have to have things written for your posts to be able to “talk” to google search.
One of the greatest obstacles I’ve had to overcome is a sense of perfection. Or as some call it – the paralysis of analysis. Meaning if I don’t have something so earth shattering to say why say anything at all?
Upon further reflection I see this also in my approach to cleaning and clutter. Why do I walk past the odd scrap of paper without picking it up? Why don’t I hand wash the odd plate or glass instead of waiting until I have a full load for the dishwasher?
Such small things wouldn’t matter except as we know, many small things a disaster makes. Suddenly, so it seems, there are a dozen or more small scraps of paper and two loads of dishes for the wash. How can this happen and happen so often?
Yes, messies often get bored with routine and with everyday ho hum repetitive chores. But like it or not, we have to have a plan and somewhere, somehow keep a sense of perspective.
Recently I’ve been reading about adults with ADD/ADHD and while I’m not going to go so far as to say all of us have that condition, I find that doing a search on ADD and time management reveals a lot of similarities. In fact I think that topic deserves it’s own post – or even series of them!
So what daily task do you need to focus on today? Challenge yourself to do small but meaningful actions that will either prevent or deal with a organizational mess and let someone know who can cheer you on.
Messies sometimes have the type of day that panics those of us on the road to recovery. A day when our “stuff” threatens to overwhelm us. Paper and dishes and clothes threaten to morph into domestic “Transformers” and rage havoc in our lives.
Usually the last straw is fatigue, a cold, flu, something that clouds our minds and saps our strength. A time where we are physically or mentally challenged. Oh and of course we have let our routines slip and there are dishes to be washed, projects strewn about and some other stress to add to the mix.
This is a time to put into operation “Love Self”. Take a few minutes to put your blinders on to everything but nurturing yourself if even just for 10 minutes. Take your supplements, use some essential oil and make yourself a favorite beverage. Take a mental vacation and go to your safe place and breath!
Once you feel less frazzled think gently on what tasks need to be done and prioritize them. One option is to divide them into Public and Personal. Public meaning things to do with others like paying a bill, sending out an email or making a phone call. Personal are items you do that make your life easier such as doing laundry or washing dishes. This will also give you a snapshot of how your routines are shaping up.
Do one item at a time giving it enough time to finish a segment. If it gets overwhelming go back to breathing and calming. If you have something that has to be done quickly see if a family member or friend can help or take on another task that might make it easier.
Don’t Panic! Panic Days are never fun and they will come but with preparation, knowledge and increasing your coping skills you will get through them. As with any health issue see a health care professional for help if things feel out of control.